Vittorio Norman

There are many claims that NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) can be a useful trick for seducing women. The pitch is endless on how to turn women on, remove barriers, and basically get much further than you would otherwise.

On some seduction forums, men talk about how to disarm or circumvent the social mask women have, called the "slut defense". This is a defense women have against appearing too "easy" for their sexual conduct.

Unlike simple trivia questions, the majority of opinion is not something you should rely on for answers when it comes to lifestyle choices. Yes, listen to the "answers" out there to be informed but then let your inner compass guide you.

Be selective, and be real about it. In other words don't just be selective as a way of making yourself more attractive towards women, but to make life easier for yourself, and remove the anvil of neediness hanging over your head.

It used to be very common for me to get women on IM, then on the phone, and then meet. And although I still do that sometimes, I've gotten to the point where it is completely optional.

Getting her to call you is most easily done when she messages you first, as you are just moving seamlessly to the next step. It is important to not waste time on extra steps if you can avoid it. Let's say she sends you a message.

For internet dating, whether you call her or she calls you is not necessarily a big deal. And especially if you are starting out it may even be desirable to be the one to call the women and ask them out, simply as a way to build confidence.

Below is an example which shows the kind of dialogue I sometimes get into. In this particular instance I am chatting with a woman from online. The entire conversation is not shown, just the key parts.

If you are a musician there is no need to play your instrument for her, to keep her interested. She saw you on stage, saw you perform, and if she likes you there is no need to do anything more.If you are a writer of poetry and she likes your work,...

I wrestled with this question many times in the past. What would happen is that I would reach a slump in the internet scene and then focus solely on bars and clubs, and when I reached a slump there I would go back to the internet.