Dr. Robert Huizenga

If there is one front-and-forward excuse for infidelity it is: " I fell out of love."This usually means: I no longer feel sexually attracted to you (I'm sexually attracted to someone else, for now, at least.) Or, I need to spice my...

Infidelity has different faces...and different signs and patterns.Yes, infidelity is complex. You probably know that or perhaps feel the overwhelm and confusion.

Cheating is different from infidelity? Yes, I believe so. Signs of a cheating spouse will be different from signs of infidelity.In talking to thousands of people embroiled with a cheating spouse or infidelity over the past two plus decades,...

My, how the cheating spouse cries foul when he/she discovers you are spying. Outrage can be intense: “How dare you!! I never thought you would stoop to that! How could you!? How can there be trust in this relationship if you do that?

Every relationship hits a snag, or worse, a major crisis (such as infidelity), that demands significant change if the relationship is to survive.So...there are promises to change and the two of you embark upon a new path. You watch carefully.

When you spy on your suspected cheating spouse, please make sure you consider all the possibilities you might encounter and whether you can handle them. Have you considered the many situations that spying might uncover?

The fifth affair I outline in my book, "Break Free From The Affair" is called: "I Want to Get Back at Him/Her." This is the revenge affair.

There are many things in our culture that grab us and won't let go. Sometimes sex is one of them. Perhaps that's the case for you or your spouse/partner.

Do not use what you find on your cheating spouse as ammunition for revenge. Sure, you may have wonderfully violent fantasies of what you would really like to do to him/her and the other person. This is very normal. But, don’t act them out.

Hearing that your cheating spouse is “in love” with someone else is devastating. I hear often, “I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that.