This month I want to talk a little about competition. Now, competition can be a wonderful thing, it can motivate is, excite us, and be a lot of fun. But when we use competition as a guiding force in our life, things tend to go askew. Society would have us believe that reality is a competition (have you noticed that almost every "reality" TV show is also a competition). The challenge is, last time I checked, winning doesn't really make you happy in the long run. It's like a drug - sure you might get a high when you get the trophy or the applause- but how are you going to find happiness the next day. And the day after that.

And though competition might be a lot of fun, there's places where it might cause more problems than anything else. For example, it seems that there are deluge of dating shows on TV right now, where the basic concept boils down to competing for the chance to prove your are "datable/lovable" and win out over the other suitors. Is this really how we want to view personal relationships? Do you want competition to be a key ingredient in your relationships (and if it is, how long will they last?).

What this does is cause us to expend our time and resources towards ends that might not serve our highest good. If you're spending all your energy competing for love, it's hard to find time to build the skills and habits that cause a relationship to be successful. If you're busy competing to win, you often lose sight of the fun you can have during the process.

Here are a few questions for you. Where are you competing in your life right now? Is it helping you achieve your goals; and where is it holding back? Are you focusing on it more than you want to? Are you a worthwhile being independent of your win/loss ratio?

And if you're curious about the answer to that last one, let me be the first to say that being a RockStar (which you are) has nothing to do with winning or losing!

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