I Hate Lists
| by Kathy Gates, Professional Life Coach | February 23, 2006
List making comes naturally to me. I learned how to spell writing out grocery lists for my mom. She would walk around the kitchen checking to see what we were low on and call out things for me to write on the list. My job was to spell it out as I wrote it, or she would have me sound it out, correcting when necessary. I not only learned how to spell, but the value of that list as well.
But I know a lot of people balk at lists. It makes them feel too rigid, too focused. They want to be creative, flexible, spontaneous. Or as one client said, I hate lists. Lists just show me how far behind I really am. I dont want to be reminded.
Another client says, Lists dont work. I make a list, but then none of it gets done. Oh, so its the lazy lists fault? I see.
And Ill agree - all valid points. But the Real Life bottom line is that list-users tend to be much more efficient than list-avoiders. And because they are more efficient with what they need to do, they therefore have much more guilt-free time to do what they really want to do.
And isnt that *really* the bottom line? Heres some tips to help you make lists work for you:
First and foremost, make sure you have a clear goal for the list. I know it sounds odd, but its one of the most important things you can do. Its essential to tie it into your motivation; otherwise, as my client indicated above, you may just write it then forget it. Decide -Whats the point of it? What do I want the item or list help me do?
Think of this *specifically*, not just be more organized. The list might help you stop being embarrassed at your sons soccer game because you were in charge of drinks. It might stop those late fees on the video rentals you hate so much. Make it personal.
Normally, youll want to keep the keep the list specific - grocery items, weekend projects, or errands to run. If you prefer a Priority Daily List, try dividing a piece of paper into 4 quadrants. Label each one - to buy, to call, to finish, to mail -- whatever fits your lifestyle.
Be sure that theres a clear reason that an item is on the list at all. Is its really your job to deal with it? Can/should it be delegated to someone else? Is it important to be done at all? Is there a way to combine it with something else to simplify it?
Get creative with your lists. One client of mine hung a giant chalk board in her laundry room near the back door. She divided it into 4 quadrants. To Call, To Do, To Buy, To Go. She used different colors for each quadrant, drew happy or irritated faces, all kinds of things. It was her creative response to a dull task.
You might use different colored papers for different lists, or different colors for work vs. home. Or use Top 10 to have some fun with it - Top 10 Errands to Run Before Saturday. Top 10 Things To Do In February.
Probably most important of all is that you link your daily/weekly lists to your calendar/schedule. A list without a date/time link, is like a fish out of water, or a car without fuel. It just doesnt work. The lists must fit into the way you live your life, and that is inextricably linked with your schedule.
Directed lists can be a simple, yet powerful tool in your daily happiness. Get listing!
But I know a lot of people balk at lists. It makes them feel too rigid, too focused. They want to be creative, flexible, spontaneous. Or as one client said, I hate lists. Lists just show me how far behind I really am. I dont want to be reminded.
Another client says, Lists dont work. I make a list, but then none of it gets done. Oh, so its the lazy lists fault? I see.
And Ill agree - all valid points. But the Real Life bottom line is that list-users tend to be much more efficient than list-avoiders. And because they are more efficient with what they need to do, they therefore have much more guilt-free time to do what they really want to do.
And isnt that *really* the bottom line? Heres some tips to help you make lists work for you:
First and foremost, make sure you have a clear goal for the list. I know it sounds odd, but its one of the most important things you can do. Its essential to tie it into your motivation; otherwise, as my client indicated above, you may just write it then forget it. Decide -Whats the point of it? What do I want the item or list help me do?
Think of this *specifically*, not just be more organized. The list might help you stop being embarrassed at your sons soccer game because you were in charge of drinks. It might stop those late fees on the video rentals you hate so much. Make it personal.
Normally, youll want to keep the keep the list specific - grocery items, weekend projects, or errands to run. If you prefer a Priority Daily List, try dividing a piece of paper into 4 quadrants. Label each one - to buy, to call, to finish, to mail -- whatever fits your lifestyle.
Be sure that theres a clear reason that an item is on the list at all. Is its really your job to deal with it? Can/should it be delegated to someone else? Is it important to be done at all? Is there a way to combine it with something else to simplify it?
Get creative with your lists. One client of mine hung a giant chalk board in her laundry room near the back door. She divided it into 4 quadrants. To Call, To Do, To Buy, To Go. She used different colors for each quadrant, drew happy or irritated faces, all kinds of things. It was her creative response to a dull task.
You might use different colored papers for different lists, or different colors for work vs. home. Or use Top 10 to have some fun with it - Top 10 Errands to Run Before Saturday. Top 10 Things To Do In February.
Probably most important of all is that you link your daily/weekly lists to your calendar/schedule. A list without a date/time link, is like a fish out of water, or a car without fuel. It just doesnt work. The lists must fit into the way you live your life, and that is inextricably linked with your schedule.
Directed lists can be a simple, yet powerful tool in your daily happiness. Get listing!
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