Feeling of Forgiveness-An Attribute

| by Dr. Pratima Jagadeesh | June 19, 2007
Forgiveness
Is the mightiest sword
Forgiveness of those
When they bruise you with words
When they make you feel small
When it's hardest to take
You must do nothing at all...
But FORGIVE
As this is the highest award…..

Forgive is our trait to give others an opportunity to cleanse the mistakes. It’s a door to stimulate a feeling of respect and admiration.

Forgive, compromise, negotiate all comes when a person is right and judges the act of an other who might/might not be wrong.
All in their perspectives are rightful and judge themselves to be precise and correct for their actions. From a social and shared stand point we can judge the action to be righteous and acceptable. But we normally don’t judge the act or deed, we estimate the person and ascertain the character behind it. We tend to forget that mistakes and blunders are bound to happen. We are here not to judge the person who is committed it. Instead if we could broaden our vision to see not the person but just the action, then forgiveness and excuse would have been our primary traits.

One facet which should be of our interest is Why are we asked for forgiveness? Why would someone ask us for an excuse? Why would they try to convince us about their mistake and make us understand that they were wrong?
For instance, some passerby would ask you SORRY for a mistake and just don’t even wait for your reply and proceeds.
A peer at your office might just say SORRY and involve themselves in their daily chores.
And there are people mightier than above two, who is not even apologetic for their faults. They carry a light attitude of DON’T CARE.

Then who asks for an apology, who asks for forgiveness, who is bothered about us and our pardon?
Yes! It all means that they JUST NEED US in their lives.
And that’s the core reason they come back to us with a note of SORRY, in apologetic way with a regretful voice. They understand that they have committed a mistake, and want us realize it, consider it and forgive it.
They take care to spend their time for you because they know you are worth in their lives.
Your presence is a WANT for them and they NEED you for the rest.
If we could just understand that we are given that importance and we are so much worth in someone’s life, we would not have dared to ask WHY FORGIVE?

To dive deep down for the question WHY FORGIVE? The answers would erupt with different flavors of attributes and advantages.
The more positive angle of our speech is to comprehend that words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world for some one and for ourselves.
The birth of forgive is in the kindness of mind, consideration in heart with a blend of compassionate feeling.

The consequences of non acceptance can be a cancer of bitterness which sprouts first in mind just acquires your body thorough out or it could be an endless tragedy of hatred. A moment of anger is a lives losses. An instant intolerance is end of relationships. Some seconds of irritation is a constant arguments. Some haste decisions and words are permanent loss of people and assets.

Before you injure someone,
Before you spoil a relationship
Before you hurt someone’s feelings
Before you dent with words
Before you scratch a smooth surface
Before you smash any object in rage ……….

JUST THINK ……
Can it be repaired ?
Can you retrieve the same moments as before
Can you get back the lost time, thoughts and life ?

The answer is hard but the mocking truth is always high to say let the punishment match the offense. Blowing out another's candle will not make yours shine brighter and a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

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Dr. Pratima Jagadeesh BE MBA PhD
Inclined towards Psychology, Philosophy and involved in personality development programs. » Read more articles by Dr. Pratima Jagadeesh
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