It's hard to tolerate the ones who live with us, someone who's late, traffic jams, endless lines... it's even harder to tolerate the diferences between people, frustrations, human mistakes. It is hard to tolerate ourselves.

Think about this for a moment. Think about your tolerance. If you don't know what I am talking about, pay attention to the number of times when somebody else's action woke up the beast on you. If this happens often to you, something must be wrong with that. Before you explode, ask yourself: "was it so stupid what she or he said, or maybe is it right?".

I'd like to invite you to this simple practice in your life, the practice of Tolerance.

Tolerate when somebody not so tolerant in the car behind you gets mad because you were thinking about your loved ones and didn't realize the light was green (do the same with the guy in front of you), or when you note someone you love is going through a hard time. Tolerate your own bad mood, remember that everybody can have a bad mood once in a while.

I am not telling you to say YES to everything, I'm just saying that you can evaluate the situation for 10 seconds, before you go crazy and start getting agressive when it's not necessary."Is it really worth to fight because of this or that?" This 10 seconds can change all the rest of your day. The following situation is a good example:

"You wake up a little late to work. When you sit to have breakfast with your family, you realize you still have to drop the children at school, and they are also late. Your daughter drops coffee on your suit, and of course, because of the hurry, you get mad at her and she starts to cry and says she doesn't want to go to school with you, and you get mad at her again. By the time you're all ready, you are about an hour late to work!

In the car, you don't see anything else than your boss yelling at you because your late. You don't want to get fired, so you go faster... and end up having a little car crash! Nothing serious, but it's gonna take you more time. Just 2 hours from your day have passed, and you are already thinking things can't get any worse..."

BUT WHAT A TOLERANT PERSON WOULD DO IN THE SAME SITUATION?

"You wake up a little late to work, and think: "this can happen to ANYONE". When you sit to have breakfast with your family, you realize you still have to drop the children at school, and they are also late. Your daughter drops coffee on your suit, and you have to look for something else to wear. You look at her and say: "it's ok, honey. Be more careful next time. I'll find something to wear, you finish your breakfast so we can go". You leave your home only 10 minutes late.
In the car, you can drive safely and plan all the good things you want to have from your day."

In this situation, the tolerant person understands that is nobody else's fault that he woke up late. His daughter didn't drop the coffee on pourpose, so why can yelling at her make things better? Think about this...

... and have a beautiful day!

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