Soul Mates Destined, Chosen, Or Created?
| by Julia Simkin | August 21, 2006
Are you disappointed that love isnt all rosy, pretty, happy, and bright. Are you frustrated that your soul mate doesnt understand you, nurture you, love you unconditionally, and spend 24/7 thinking about and catering to who? You? Are you wondering -- What happened to my fairy tale? Where did I go wrong?
Well, if you answered yes to any of the questions above, I want you to know that your feelings and frustrations are absolutely understandable. And so is that little voice inside your head thats whispering Just get rid of him and go find your real prince charming ;-)
But what if I told you that what youre actually doing is unknowingly sabotaging your love life and most importantly, your own happiness?
Yes. Your own beliefs, as well as those that youve absorbed from the world around you, might just be preventing you from living the very fairy tale that youve been dreaming about.
Think about it
Starting from the first moment we notice a difference between the sexes, were trained to believe that theres only one true soul mate for us. Were hypnotized by the idea that only this individual (only this one soul mate!) will fulfill our lives and complete our destinies. Were convinced that it is this one soul mate that could make all of our troubles go away and is responsible for creating the blissful existence that we want.
Sabotage? I think so!
I realize that I havent been around that long. But I have seen enough and lived through enough to realize that the beliefs we harbor within hearts dont necessarily represent the ultimate universal truth. Instead, theyre probably acquired expectations from generations past that do very little to support the emotional fulfillment we desperately crave today.
Lets imagine for a moment that our beliefs are based on incorrect assumptions. What if finding a soul mate isnt a predestined occurrence? What if choice and will also play a significant role in the outcome?
What if were meant to have more than one soul mate in a lifetime?
What if a soul mate could actually be someone other than our mate?
What if life isnt supposed to be rosy but transformational instead?
What if our soul mate should be the one forcing us to grow and evolve (even if painful at times) rather than be the one who simply pets our mane?
How would this information change your life?
The answer is yours to keep but my answer would is -- tremendously!
Now what if I also told you that the sour-flavored relationship youre about to throw away could actually be transformed into the blossoming flower that youve always envisioned? And with your current mate!
Fluff?
Nope. Not fluff. It can be done.
If youre open-minded and daring enough to challenge your current assumptions and are willing to consider the possibility that destiny might need a bit of help from you, you can create the soulful relationship that youve always desired.
How?
Well have you ever heard of an astrological term The Nodes of the Moon?
If you havent, thats ok. Ill explain.
The nodes of the moon (south and north node) are two points in an astrological chart that possess priceless information about an individuals karmic past and soul-desired future. They symbolize the unique life path that each of us is on and can answer many questions about our own, as well as our partners, inner struggles and desires -- answers that can transform not only our relationships, but also our lives.
Heres an example
1. Lets say youre constantly fighting with your mate about the fact that hes spending too much time trying to help other people with their problems instead of spending more time with you often accusing him of not caring about you and not loving you enough.
Now, what if you knew that your partners north node was in the sign of Aquarius (placing his/her south node in the sign of Leo which is its opposite) and that part of his struggle/journey in life is to find a balance between his personal life and service to humanity? What if you found out that his attention to other causes actually had nothing to do with you but instead had everything to do with his soul mission in this life?
How would this information change your relationship?
Or lets say that his north node is in one of the other 11 sign positions? What might one of his life struggles be?
Aries north node/Libra south node: assertion of singular identity versus self seen though partnership
Taurus north node/Scorpio south node: stability and abundance versus power struggles, intensity, and destruction
Gemini north node/Sagittarius south node: sophistication and blending into society versus crudeness and wildness
Cancer north node/Capricorn south node: inner pride, responsibility, and status versus emotional openness, nurturance, and service
Leo north node/Aquarius south node: strength of will to stand alone versus need for friendship and support of others
Virgo north node/Pisces south node: crystallization and structured reality versus superstition and clouded fantasy
Libra north node/Aries south node: self-sacrifice and cooperation versus self-assertion and closed-mindedness
Scorpio north node/Taurus south node: acceptance of the transformational nature life (and himself) and ability to let go versus fear-based attachment to things, people, and beliefs
Sagittarius north node/Gemini south node: understanding the value of loyalty and allegiance versus duality, indecision, and superficiality
Capricorn north node/Cancer south node: responsibility, maturity, and adulthood versus immaturity, over-sensitivity, and over-dependence on others
Pisces north node/Virgo south node: releasing dependence on structure, rigidity, and the physical plane and learning to accept the untouchable existence of a higher authority that extends beyond the five senses
Just think of what this small piece of information can do for your relationship. Youll finally be able to understand why
And once you understand why, youll most likely begin to fight less, blame less, and cry less .
And instead
Love, embrace, and value more.
So yes, maybe destiny did introduce you to your mate but its up to you to decide whether destinys choice will also become your choice.
Thats where I, and the nodes of the moon, come in. Well help you undress your mates complex soul (as well as your own) so that you have a full deck of cards in front of you as you make your life-altering decision. Because believe me you dont want to regret your decision, especially if it was based on an incomplete set of facts.
Im almost done promise! ;-)
Last but not least, its important to point out that the nodes are just one of the many valuable tools that can and should be used to strengthen a relationship. The disciplines available are numerous but love being the fascinating and complex animal that it is, can probably use all of them. ;-)
Therefore, if you already have a trustworthy tool to use to support your strong, soulful union, please go ahead and use it. However, if youre curious and are interested in exploring another option, I offer you the nodes of the moon as additional food for thought. The nodes were responsible for lighting the light-bulb light up in my head and I think they might be able to grant you the same favor.
So, having said that, if youre interested in learning more about the nodes, stop by and visit the zodiac love and zodiac signs pages of my web site www.romantic-ideas-for-life.com. And also, dont forget to return to for the rest of the article series dedicated to the exploring the rest of the twelve nodal sign positions.
Well, I guess thats it. Just remember be a bit patient and dont throw him away just yet! ;-)
Well, if you answered yes to any of the questions above, I want you to know that your feelings and frustrations are absolutely understandable. And so is that little voice inside your head thats whispering Just get rid of him and go find your real prince charming ;-)
But what if I told you that what youre actually doing is unknowingly sabotaging your love life and most importantly, your own happiness?
Yes. Your own beliefs, as well as those that youve absorbed from the world around you, might just be preventing you from living the very fairy tale that youve been dreaming about.
Think about it
Starting from the first moment we notice a difference between the sexes, were trained to believe that theres only one true soul mate for us. Were hypnotized by the idea that only this individual (only this one soul mate!) will fulfill our lives and complete our destinies. Were convinced that it is this one soul mate that could make all of our troubles go away and is responsible for creating the blissful existence that we want.
Sabotage? I think so!
I realize that I havent been around that long. But I have seen enough and lived through enough to realize that the beliefs we harbor within hearts dont necessarily represent the ultimate universal truth. Instead, theyre probably acquired expectations from generations past that do very little to support the emotional fulfillment we desperately crave today.
Lets imagine for a moment that our beliefs are based on incorrect assumptions. What if finding a soul mate isnt a predestined occurrence? What if choice and will also play a significant role in the outcome?
What if were meant to have more than one soul mate in a lifetime?
What if a soul mate could actually be someone other than our mate?
What if life isnt supposed to be rosy but transformational instead?
What if our soul mate should be the one forcing us to grow and evolve (even if painful at times) rather than be the one who simply pets our mane?
How would this information change your life?
The answer is yours to keep but my answer would is -- tremendously!
Now what if I also told you that the sour-flavored relationship youre about to throw away could actually be transformed into the blossoming flower that youve always envisioned? And with your current mate!
Fluff?
Nope. Not fluff. It can be done.
If youre open-minded and daring enough to challenge your current assumptions and are willing to consider the possibility that destiny might need a bit of help from you, you can create the soulful relationship that youve always desired.
How?
Well have you ever heard of an astrological term The Nodes of the Moon?
If you havent, thats ok. Ill explain.
The nodes of the moon (south and north node) are two points in an astrological chart that possess priceless information about an individuals karmic past and soul-desired future. They symbolize the unique life path that each of us is on and can answer many questions about our own, as well as our partners, inner struggles and desires -- answers that can transform not only our relationships, but also our lives.
Heres an example
1. Lets say youre constantly fighting with your mate about the fact that hes spending too much time trying to help other people with their problems instead of spending more time with you often accusing him of not caring about you and not loving you enough.
Now, what if you knew that your partners north node was in the sign of Aquarius (placing his/her south node in the sign of Leo which is its opposite) and that part of his struggle/journey in life is to find a balance between his personal life and service to humanity? What if you found out that his attention to other causes actually had nothing to do with you but instead had everything to do with his soul mission in this life?
How would this information change your relationship?
Or lets say that his north node is in one of the other 11 sign positions? What might one of his life struggles be?
Aries north node/Libra south node: assertion of singular identity versus self seen though partnership
Taurus north node/Scorpio south node: stability and abundance versus power struggles, intensity, and destruction
Gemini north node/Sagittarius south node: sophistication and blending into society versus crudeness and wildness
Cancer north node/Capricorn south node: inner pride, responsibility, and status versus emotional openness, nurturance, and service
Leo north node/Aquarius south node: strength of will to stand alone versus need for friendship and support of others
Virgo north node/Pisces south node: crystallization and structured reality versus superstition and clouded fantasy
Libra north node/Aries south node: self-sacrifice and cooperation versus self-assertion and closed-mindedness
Scorpio north node/Taurus south node: acceptance of the transformational nature life (and himself) and ability to let go versus fear-based attachment to things, people, and beliefs
Sagittarius north node/Gemini south node: understanding the value of loyalty and allegiance versus duality, indecision, and superficiality
Capricorn north node/Cancer south node: responsibility, maturity, and adulthood versus immaturity, over-sensitivity, and over-dependence on others
Pisces north node/Virgo south node: releasing dependence on structure, rigidity, and the physical plane and learning to accept the untouchable existence of a higher authority that extends beyond the five senses
Just think of what this small piece of information can do for your relationship. Youll finally be able to understand why
And once you understand why, youll most likely begin to fight less, blame less, and cry less .
And instead
Love, embrace, and value more.
So yes, maybe destiny did introduce you to your mate but its up to you to decide whether destinys choice will also become your choice.
Thats where I, and the nodes of the moon, come in. Well help you undress your mates complex soul (as well as your own) so that you have a full deck of cards in front of you as you make your life-altering decision. Because believe me you dont want to regret your decision, especially if it was based on an incomplete set of facts.
Im almost done promise! ;-)
Last but not least, its important to point out that the nodes are just one of the many valuable tools that can and should be used to strengthen a relationship. The disciplines available are numerous but love being the fascinating and complex animal that it is, can probably use all of them. ;-)
Therefore, if you already have a trustworthy tool to use to support your strong, soulful union, please go ahead and use it. However, if youre curious and are interested in exploring another option, I offer you the nodes of the moon as additional food for thought. The nodes were responsible for lighting the light-bulb light up in my head and I think they might be able to grant you the same favor.
So, having said that, if youre interested in learning more about the nodes, stop by and visit the zodiac love and zodiac signs pages of my web site www.romantic-ideas-for-life.com. And also, dont forget to return to for the rest of the article series dedicated to the exploring the rest of the twelve nodal sign positions.
Well, I guess thats it. Just remember be a bit patient and dont throw him away just yet! ;-)
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