One of the most important things in dating that you can do when attracting women is qualify them. The biggest mistake most guys make is spending time with a woman who will only cause them problems in the future.

A lot of guys are actually pretty good at avoiding women who are deliberately out to cause them harm--gold diggers, predators, etc. (I will point out that these type of women are a very small minority). Where they get into trouble though, is spending time dating women who inadvertently cause them trouble on a consistent basis.

A few weeks ago I was listening to a Bill Parcells press conference, when he said the following, in regards to a player (Keith Davis) who been shot in two separate instances he had nothing to do with: "It's not your fault, but your always there." His point was that some people are natural trouble magnets, and while they don't mean for bad things to happen, they put themselves in positions where bad things do happen.

This wisdom certainly applies to dating, and those "trouble" women. I've heard time after time guys say, "She's so nice, it's a shame bad things keep happening to her." Well, there's a reason bad things happen: she puts herself in a position where it's likely bad things will happen instead of avoiding positions where bad things happen. She may not mean for them to, or even start them, but wherever she goes, bad things happen.

To use another Parcells phrase, "I've gotta go by what I see." And if you see a woman who, through no deliberate fault of her own constantly has bad things happen, then you need to move on--preferably to dating a woman who puts herself in position for good things to happen.

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