Some women hold back. To them, it doesn't seem natural to buy a house and settle down until after the man they love proposes. They're old fashioned in that way," says Ellen Fein, co-author with Sherrie Schneider of "The Rules" books, a series of widely read primers on the art of capturing love and staying happily married (www.therulesbook.com).

Are you a single woman who wants her dating life to lead to both a happy marriage and homeownership? If so, these tips on finding Mr. Right could prove helpful:

Give online dating a try.

Busy professionals who spend long hours at the office have made online dating sites popular venues for finding love. Fein and Schneider, authors of "The Rules for Online Dating," think women should consider this approach, among others, though without being aggressive about it.

"The key is to have a light and breezy but well-written online profile, along with great photos," says Fein, who encourages online daters to invest in professional pictures, such as "Look Better Online" (www.lookbetteronline.com).

Get involved in interactive activities.

Women searching for Mr. Right shouldn't restrict themselves solely to online dating, according to dating coaches. In addition, they encourage women to select activities that require them to mingle.

For example, rather than going to bookstores to hear authors speak -- an essentially passive activity -- you might join a tennis club that pairs you in doubles matches. Or you might do weekend bike trips or volunteer for a political campaign. Singles-only events are another obvious possibility.

Amy Schoen, a life coach with a specialty in dating and relationships (www.heartmindconnection.com), says women should think seriously about their most enduring values and never settle for a guy simply because he makes a good income and can help her buy a house.

Don't jump the gun on a pre-marital home purchase.

Even if you have an engagement ring and a wedding date, Schneider says it's preferable to avoid making a joint home purchase prior to the ceremony. That's because a broken engagement - which could happen - might lead to a messy financial situation with your former fiance. After a breakup, suppose one partner can't afford to buy out the other's stake. Then the home might have to be sold under duress and for a discounted price.

Live fully until you find your mate.

As you go about seeking Mr. Right, remember that any hint of desperation or neediness is unattractive and could put a damper on an otherwise promising relationship. Indeed, a woman who is self-reliant and conveys confidence often drives men toward her.

"Go out there and have fun. Keep expanding your network and meeting new people. Remember that enthusiasm is contagious," says Patti Feinstein, a dating coach for 15 years (www.pattifeinstein.com).

Article Source: http://www.articleset.com