First comes that split second of physical attraction. Next that
thrilling feeling of chemistry. But when the veil of romance starts to lift,
what's life really like off the dance floor?
Too often, love is blind.

In an exciting whirlwind of parties and romantic dates, you are swept
along . You decide to get married and live happily ever after. Years later
the hormones had calmed down (and so had the fireworks). When the smoke
cleared, the mismatches started to emerge. Her passion to shop and his
questionable money decisions created constant financial stress. He liked to
hang with the guys. She loved to go to the theatre with friends. They
disagreed on children and family values, especially religion. Communication
broke down. Eventually, they grew apart.

Sound familiar? A physical and chemical match is essential at the
start, but the excitement of a budding new romance eventually wears off.
Making thoughtful dating decisions can mean the difference between revolving
relationships and finding lasting love.

Marriage counsellers outline seven match areas to consider:

1. Physical appearance

While physical appearance and attraction draw two people together at
first, these aspects will affect the rest of their lives. If working out and
staying fit is important to you, will it bum you out if your mate doesn't
share your quest for such energetic life patterns

2. Emotional maturity

Is this person emotionally mature and centred or are they still
lugging around some trunk-sized baggage? How does your sweetheart relate to
family and friends? Is he or she emotionally supportive or have control
issues? Is your mate aware of his or her own issues and interested in
addressing them?

3. Lifestyle choices

This includes career and social lives, common interests, leisure time
activities and energy levels. Would she rather watch a cricket match or the
metropolitan symphony? Does he have lots of energy for activities with
friends while she'd rather rest and stay at home?

4. Financial style

This is a hot bed for most couples. It includes income levels,
financial goals and views on handling money. How do you each want to spend,
save and invest? Is one person a spender while the other saves? Is one
person financially responsible while the other plays catch-up with child
support and bills?

5. Value structure

This match area is often overlooked but has a tremendous impact on
your life. It includes the big values: Honesty, integrity, loyalty, views on
family and children, religion and spirituality, life goals and the treatment
and care for others. Does your mate follow through on her word? Would you
say he's trustworthy? Will she always be there for you in a pinch?

6. Marriage and sex

Everyone does not share the same idea of marriage. The big questions
to address are: What do you and your mate expect from marriage and sex? Is
he or she looking for a soul mate? Do you both want close intimacy in
friendship, communication and sex?

7. Intelligence

Having similar education levels increases your chances of sharing
matching school and social experiences, intellectual interests and career
goals. What topics do you and your honey like to talk about? Conversation
limited to sports or shopping may get boring to someone who likes to ponder
philosophy and bluster about business.

While you don't have to match exactly in each area, look at the big
picture and make sure you match closely enough in the important areas of
your life.

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