Breakups men experience often induce them to call and leave messages for their ex girlfriends or estranged wifes.

Ever wondered if there were some 'magic' words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
Sounds like a fairy tale but there ARE actually words that will help cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to respond and call you back!

Sounds interesting?? This is one of the questions everybody ask when they what to try and put their relationship back together.

Breakups advice: So how do I get my ex to return my phone calls?

In the Magic Of Making Up, a complete strategy for getting is explained to accomplish this... and much more.

This "magic" guide provides you with an "overall' plan without which you may cause more damage and even destroy your relationship.

Prevent the damage and avoid using the "plea" and the "emergency"!

Before we get into the actual words, let's
go over what message almost never
works and worse...can put you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

These usually fall into two categories.

The desperate pleading call - It sounds like : "Susan, please, please call me. I have been trying to reach you the whole afternoon. I just HAVE to talk to you!"

And the emergency call - "Anne, you need to call me urgently. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? It is transparent....

Rather use two of the most powerful and controlling forces in the human mind :

*Curiosity and
*Self Interest

The BIG SECRET that will work MAGIC!

Use a combination of curiosity and self interest to get the needed attention and you will have a winning recipe that WILL work 'magic'!

Now, let's look at what you can say that is almost always successful.

In a friendly tone: "Hi Anne. It's Tim. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

See how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?

Anne will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" ,"What does he appreciate?" that will be some of the things she will be thinking. And she feels good because it is a positive message.

But very important is to plan beforehand!

Before you call you need to do the "Planning"...which is figuring out what he or she did that you appreciate so much.

It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible. But more importantly...

Be warned!

Please have an underlying strategy as explained in the "Magic Of Making Up" System BEFORE you make the call.

This technique should never be applied without an underlying strategy or plan as you will be unprepared and would most probably cause more DAMAGE than good as you would handle it correctly.

Take note of the following!

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is the MOST important thing than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

So use a well worked out and proven STRATEGY!

Best wishes
Jessica Whitney

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