12 Commandments for Parents
| by Annette Lucas | February 15, 2006
An important factor in a child's education is the parents'expertise for this "job". No one is born holding all theknowledge, but we can learn and understand some things frombooks or advice from qualified persons.
Among the commandments a parent should strictly follow arethe following:
1. Do not underestimate your child - he can understand morethan you think he does and if you make him believe youthink poorly of him this might affect his development.
2. Don't use threat - a child loves a challenge and oncethreatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn'tsuppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.
3. Do not bribe your child - if you are trying to get himto learn (work, be quiet, etc.) for money (candy, tv time,etc.) he will fail to understand the importance oflearning, all he will get from this is the importance ofmoney.
4. Do not make a small child promise something - smallchildren can't understand the concept of promises so don'tforce them to lie and then punish them because they did.
5. Do not keep them on a short leash - to grow up normallychildren need some space, some freedom and room to makemistakes. Some of the biggest lessons we learn are fromthe mistakes we've made in the past.
6. Do not use big words or too many words when you aretalking to your child - keep your ideas simple and conciseso he can understand every thing you have to say.
7. Do not expect immediate and blind obedience - it is notrecommended, a child needs to learn to think on his own notto follow orders.
8. Do not indulge him too much - he needs to experience thefeelings of self-confidence and self-respect the rewards ofa "job well done" offer.
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game -the trick for a game to become educational is to have itsinitial rules respected.
10. Don't impose rules that don't go with the age of yourchild.
11. Do not try to inflict guilt - guilt is not anappropriate feeling for children, especially if they arelittle.
12. Don't give your child orders that you don't takeseriously - your child will try to please you and givinghim an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that orderis a joke.
All these "commandments" are addressed first to the parent.But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators aswell. Along with the parents, they will instill an attitudeand strategy for the education and growth of the child, sothat they can give him all the things he needs to properlydevelop emotional and physically.
Among the commandments a parent should strictly follow arethe following:
1. Do not underestimate your child - he can understand morethan you think he does and if you make him believe youthink poorly of him this might affect his development.
2. Don't use threat - a child loves a challenge and oncethreatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn'tsuppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.
3. Do not bribe your child - if you are trying to get himto learn (work, be quiet, etc.) for money (candy, tv time,etc.) he will fail to understand the importance oflearning, all he will get from this is the importance ofmoney.
4. Do not make a small child promise something - smallchildren can't understand the concept of promises so don'tforce them to lie and then punish them because they did.
5. Do not keep them on a short leash - to grow up normallychildren need some space, some freedom and room to makemistakes. Some of the biggest lessons we learn are fromthe mistakes we've made in the past.
6. Do not use big words or too many words when you aretalking to your child - keep your ideas simple and conciseso he can understand every thing you have to say.
7. Do not expect immediate and blind obedience - it is notrecommended, a child needs to learn to think on his own notto follow orders.
8. Do not indulge him too much - he needs to experience thefeelings of self-confidence and self-respect the rewards ofa "job well done" offer.
9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game -the trick for a game to become educational is to have itsinitial rules respected.
10. Don't impose rules that don't go with the age of yourchild.
11. Do not try to inflict guilt - guilt is not anappropriate feeling for children, especially if they arelittle.
12. Don't give your child orders that you don't takeseriously - your child will try to please you and givinghim an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that orderis a joke.
All these "commandments" are addressed first to the parent.But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators aswell. Along with the parents, they will instill an attitudeand strategy for the education and growth of the child, sothat they can give him all the things he needs to properlydevelop emotional and physically.
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